Over on Thought Catalog, Ko Im offers a series of prompts to help you discover patterns that point to how to do more of what makes you feel happy. A few favorites:

What is the best thing that happened to me?This not only brings back fond memories but also shows implicit gratitude. It also shows your scope – is it a specific event or an overall “I’m grateful to be alive!”

What are five things I like about me?Yup, shower yourself with compliments.

How are three ways others would describe me?These adjectives could be good or bad. Perception vs. reality, the point is to be self-aware and therefore confident.

Finish this sentence: My dream is…Don’t be afraid to write it down, say it out loud, shout it from a rooftop! What would you do if no one else was reading, watching or listening?

These questions are not easy for me. I’m not one to shower myself with compliments and I often find myself feeling down about things on an internal level. Positive self talk always sounded like utter bullshit to me.

The bottom line is what are the things that make me happy? I’m not an upbeat guy… one of those people who always see the silver lining. I wear my pessimistic jacket and permanent dark cloud like a badge of honor sometimes. That’s probably not particularly healthy.